🧠Weekly Mind Sweep #113 | Curated Conversation | Pride
March 2024
*Week 113: Curated Conversation; Pride
Week 114: Mind Your Business; Pride
Week 115: Manage Your Mind; Pride
Week 116: What’s On My Mind; Pride
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Humility in the face of pride.
As my twin boys turn towards adulthood and begin flapping their wings to prepare to take flight from the nest,
I'm feeling a sense of Pride.
When I pause to reflect on the roads we've traveled to arrive at this pinnacle moment, I feel emotions of gratitude, relief, and a sense of joy in the opportunities in front of them. And…me.
Would I have done some things differently? Maybe. But, from my personal growth journey, I've learned to embody everything that was…is. Each turn placed us in front of opportunities that would not have been there otherwise, and in the end, here we are, and what a ride it has been.
I know my mothering is not ending. I'll always be a mother here to support and guide my children as they navigate the world.
Still, my responsibilities are changing, and I'm incredibly proud of the men they have become.
From this reflection [1], I became curious about Pride.
Is it okay to feel Pride?
When does our brain take things too far?
Why do we not celebrate our accomplishments more?
Where does Pride get in the way?
As I began to research Pride, I ran into familiar words to our past Weekly MindSweeps, such as *
Ego
Relationship
Failure
Compassion
Capacity
There is plenty to read about keeping your Pride in check to ensure your ego doesn't take over and cause failure in relationships. Even more about how Pride affects our brain capacity and Executive Function! Hold on, folks, March is coming in like a lion!
Grab your favorite cup of whatever you love, and let's dig in.
By definition:
pride /prīd/
noun
a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.
consciousness of one's own dignity.
But, personally, I was more interested in what Brené Brown had to say and reached for my Atlas of the Heart book. Her book is where I learned the distinction between:
Authentic Pride - a positive connotation with words like accomplishment, master, triumph, confidence, and self-worth. We don't just feel Pride about our own accomplishments; there are family or pride experiences. I can feel proud of myself, proud of you, proud of us.
This type of Pride is healthy.
Hubristic Pride - is an inflated sense of one's own innate abilities that is tied more to the need for dominance than to actual accomplishment. It's negatively correlated with self-esteem and positively correlated with narcissism and shame proneness.
Brené goes on to define narcissism as:
Narcissism is the shame-based fear of being ordinary. [2]
Oof.
Her closing of the chapter touches on humility. (We'd have to go in the way back machine to Week 34 of the weekly MindSweep for that one) [3] but she offers a reminder that:
Humility is an openness to new learning combined with a balanced and accurate assessment of our contributions, including our strengths, imperfections, and opportunities for growth. [4]
My sense of Pride aligns more with Brené's definition of family pride. I feel proud of myself, proud of them, and proud of us. What a beautiful feeling it is.
We were not on this journey alone. It took a village.
As we step into our new topic of Pride:
What comes up for you?
Where have you recently felt a sense of Pride?
Where have you recognized your ego slip-in?
Where might Pride be getting in your way of receiving support?
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What I’m reading
Astor
he story of the Astors is a quintessentially American story—of ambition, invention, destruction, and reinvention.
From 1783, when German immigrant John Jacob Astor first arrived in the United States, until 2009, when Brooke Astor’s son, Anthony Marshall, was convicted of defrauding his elderly mother, the Astor name occupied a unique place in American society.
The family fortune, first made by a beaver trapping business that grew into an empire, was then amplified by holdings in Manhattan real estate. Over the ensuing generations, Astors ruled Gilded Age New York society and inserted themselves into political and cultural life, but also suffered the most famous loss on the Titanic, one of many shocking and unexpected twists in the family’s story.
What I’m listening to:
Relationships in business
Imperfection in progress with Dawn Calvinisti
“A relationship is a gift that keeps on giving, and yeah, there may not be a one-on-one return of investment there, but you don't you don't know if you don't try and build that deeper connection first.” - Jamie Chapman
Welcome to Imperfection In Progress, a podcast for ambitious women who are people pleasers, perfectionists, or procrastinators. Want to feel less stressed and more joy in your life? Then this is for you. I'm your host, Dawn Calvinisti.
On this episode of Imperfection in Progress I have a fantastic conversation with Jamie Chapman about why relationships in our business are important as well as how to find those deeper connections.
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