IL; RI (It’s longer; read it)

Week 31: Curated Conversation: Confident Humility

Week 32: Mind Your Business: Confident Humility + Business. Mind your brain, manage your business.

Week 33: Manage Your Mind: Confident Humility + Brain Science & Health #BrainGeek.

Week 34: Contemplation: What’s On My Mind; My thoughts on Confident Humility. By popular request, more Jamie Chapman!

Now, let’s sweep the brain…

Now, let’s sweep the brain…

I have a marking system with business books that, as I read them, I use small post-it flags to identify things I’d like to reference or reflect on when I’m done with the entire book.

Then, when I finish, I distill the information and store my takeaways. (Do you have a book reading process, too?)

I have read some books without marking them at all. And then there is Think Again by Adam Grant, and I’ll admit, I’m obsessed. I’m on page 75 of this book, and I’ve lost count of the flags.

You know those books that just resonate with how you THINK! I’m pretty confident that Adam Grant is my long-lost brother and modestly sure that Bill Belichick is my long-lost father. (If you missed my obsession with Bill, you should read more about that here.)

I immediately resonated with his term Confident Humility.

I do not:

• Believe everything that enters my mind.

• Internalize every feeling that enters my heart.

• Make my beliefs my identity.

“We are not born with opinions. We have full control over what we believe is true. We choose our views, and we can choose to rethink them anytime we want” Adam Grant.

For years I have thought that not taking feedback personally, being curious and constantly searching for new information, and desperately asking for constructive criticism was something broken in my brain.

It turns out I was wrong! < See what I did there?!

I’m fascinated by the paradox of being CONFIDENT AND HUMBLE! I’ve spent some time learning more about it, and I’m geeking out to talk to you about it for August.

When I begin a new project, I start with the definition because I want to thoroughly understand where I’m starting from.

Confident - adjective - feeling or showing confidence in oneself; self-assured.

Humility - noun - a modest or low view of one's own importance; humbleness.

As I dig deeper into the idea, I become more intrigued.One thing I learned from this article that I wanted to share with you is:

There are 5 key behaviors of confidently humble people.

They are able to D.O.U.B.T.

DETACH their identity from their opinions.

• Values vs. Beliefs.

• Are you searching for truth, or are you searching to be right?

OPEN themselves to contradictory ideas.

• Are you comfortable with being wrong?

• Do your beliefs cause bias?

Understand the UNCERTAINTY in the world.

• Is your world composed of extreme black and white, or can you see the shades of gray?

• Nooo, not the book!

BUILD a deliberative process.

• Are you comfortable with accepting there is no PERFECT way?

• Can you let go of your ego, listen and follow the FACTS and LOGIC?

TRIGGER and commit when the time comes.

• Can you take action, or do you get stuck in deliberating?

• Can you own the decision you are making with the information you have, and are you willing to own your mistakes if later proven wrong?

I LOVE the idea that to have confident humility; you need D.O.U.B.T.

Similar to my parenting style, it’s about moderation. You can’t be too confident, and you can’t be too humble. But don’t forget that troublemaker ego. I found this gorgeous visual by Joey Roth:

Could you use support with confident humility?

What I’m reading:

C.O.M.E O.N! Let’s get to work.

Curated Conversation: Every Monday at 8 am. If you are receiving this email, you will receive a link to the Zoom meeting every Monday morning at 7 am inviting you to join in at 8 am. If an amazing woman has forwarded you this email, you can get more Jamie Chapman in your life, here.

One on One: Personalized MindSweep Mapping, Consulting. = more Jamie Chapman.

MindSweep Mapping: N.H. Let’s map out a path that takes you from idea to profit.

Engaging Networking: Chickbook Creative Tour - Coffee, Cocktails, Bumper Boats, Lunch, other creative ideas I come up with.

Oh, you haven’t met me yet? Let’s Connect! Free Consultation or Network Connection.

Now. ← Time to act.

In other news…

What I love #chickbookjamieloves

Follow this hashtag for my weekly Jamie loves post on FB & Instagram

Feeling #FOMO about Coffee Connect? Join us!