🧠 Weekly MindSweep No. 245 | Mind Your Business II | Masking
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🧠 Weekly MindSweep No. 245 | Mind Your Business II | Masking
The Mask That Feels Like Home in Entrepreneurship
Why "it's always worked" might be the most expensive sentence in your business.
A client came to me not because anything was wrong.
Nothing was actually broken. They'd been running great events for years. The kind that people keep coming back for. Over those years, they'd gotten smart about it, trimming the parts that were a headache, smoothing the rough edges, and quietly engineering their own life to be easier each time around.
By the time we sat down together, the whole thing ran like a well-oiled machine. They could do it in their sleep. And when I asked how it was going, the honest answer was: well. Genuinely, things were going well.
So why would we take apart the one thing that's working?
I’ve learned to get curious about the parts of a business that feel most settled. Through my pattern recognition, I’ve seen that it’s not always the parts that hurt; sometimes it’s the parts that feel so good. So we looked.
And what we found underneath the "it's going well" was a groove worn so deep that my client could no longer see over the edges of it.
Their model hadn't really changed in years. Neither had the marketing. And the pricing? The pricing was set to a number from so long ago that nobody could quite remember the reasoning behind it, because the only reasoning left was the most comfortable sentence in business:
This is what I've always charged. And it's worked. So why would I change it?
They were delivering an extraordinary amount of time, energy, attention, and skill, and delivering extraordinary value. Pouring heart, craft, and years of hard-won skill into an experience people genuinely treasured. And yet, still charging as if none of that growth had happened. They had deeply, dramatically underestimated what people could, would, and frankly should gladly pay for what they'd built.
They weren't hiding because they were scared. They were hiding because they were comfortable.
And comfortable, it turns out, is the hardest mask to see.
What We've Named so Far
If you’ve been with us from September into this month, you know we’ve been living inside the topic of Masking a little longer than usual.
In September's Mind Your Business issue, I wrote about getting promoted for a performance that was quietly costing me everything. The exhausting work of looking composed. The parking lot where I'd sit and do the math on how much longer I could keep affording it. That's masking under discomfort. The mask you can feel, because it drains you.
Then last week, I wrote from the other side of the world about standing in a pub feeling nothing, and realizing the mask goes up automatically when my nervous system doesn't feel safe. No audience required. That's masking under survival.
Both share something in common. They hurt. You can feel the cost in your body: the exhaustion, the emptiness, the faint ping of discomfort.
But what my client bumped into, sitting on top of a business that was "going well," was something different. Something neither of us would have thought to call masking at all.
Because it didn't hurt, it felt good.
Masking from Comfort
We wear a mask when we feel unsafe. We’re familiar with the performance, the composure, the survival mode. It's real and we feel it.
But there's a second kind of mask. And we put this one on when we feel safe.
It's the thing you do the way you've always done it. The model you've never rebuilt. The marketing you've never refreshed. The price you set once and never revisited. The story you tell about who you are and what you do. That’s masking because it's comfortable. It's worn-in, it asks nothing of you, and boy, oh boy, does it feel like home.
And that's exactly what makes it almost impossible to catch.
The fear and discomfort mask sets off an alarm. It costs you something, so some part of you is always quietly tracking the bill. But the comfort mask? No alarm. No cost in the moment. Nothing hurts. There's a well-documented pull in all of us toward the familiar simply because it's familiar; the known path feels safe, and the unknown one feels expensive, even when the known path is quietly keeping us small. This is a real, well-studied cognitive pattern called status quo bias. [1]
So the comfort mask doesn't drain you like the performance mask does.
It does something way sneakier.
It shrinks you.
The performance mask costs you energy. The comfort mask costs you your potential. The revenue my client had been quietly leaving on the table, year after year, wasn't lost to a bad economy or a weak offer. It was lost to a number that felt fine. To a model that felt settled. They weren't running a failing business. They were running a perfectly good business that was quietly, invisibly smaller than the one they were fully capable of.
It didn’t show up as a problem; it showed up as "well."
Where to Look for Masks
My friends, comfort will not flag itself. We have to look, on purpose, in the places that feel the most settled.
To get curious about whether "the way I've always done it" is genuine preference, or an old safety behavior we stopped recognizing as a choice.
I want to share four places worth taking a second look:
Your model. You have a way the whole thing is shaped -the format, the structure, the offer itself - that you'd defend as "just how this works." Maybe it does. Or maybe, like my client, you've spent years making it easier without ever asking if it's still the right shape. Smoothing the edges of a model is not the same as questioning it. The test isn't "does this run well?" Familiar things usually run well. The test is: If I were designing this fresh today, as who I am now, would I build it this way again?
Your marketing. This is the message you've been running on autopilot, the same language, the same channels, the same way of describing what you do, long after you've outgrown it. Comfortable marketing is often marketing that has stopped keeping pace with how much you've grown. When did you last ask whether the way you talk about your work still matches the work you're actually doing now?
Your pricing. This is the big one, and it's the one my client never saw coming. Not the fear of charging more; we covered that exposure before. This is quieter. This is a number set at some point, for some old reason, and simply never revisited. A price built on who you were and what you offered then. The danger isn't that the number is scary. The danger is that it feels fine, and "fine" is exactly what keeps it frozen while your value quietly doubles underneath it. When did you last look at your pricing and ask, not "is this safe?", but "is this true to what I now deliver?"
The story you've built the business around. This is the deepest one. Somewhere along the way you decided I'm the ___ one. The reliable one. The affordable one. The one who does it this way. That identity served you; it gave you something solid to stand on. But identities calcify. (IYKYK) And an old story about who you are can quietly cap the entire ceiling of what your business is allowed to become. My client's ceiling was a sentence: this is what I've always charged. What's yours?
You still can't do this alone
If Week 244 taught us anything, it's that you cannot always notice your own mask from the inside. That was true when the mask was survival. It's even more true here, because this mask doesn't even have the courtesy to hurt. #jerk.
My client is brilliant, experienced, and deeply gifted at what they do. And they still could not see the comfortable mask they'd been wearing for years. Nobody can see it from the center of it. That's not a flaw. That's just how comfort works. It's invisible from the inside.
And that’s exactly why a second set of eyes can change everything. Someone who can look at what you'd swear is "just how you do business" and gently ask: Is that actually what you want, or is it just the groove you wore so deep you forgot you chose it? Someone who can see the value you've stopped noticing, because you're standing too close to it to recognize what it's worth.
When my client finally saw it, the conversation stopped being about price. It became about permission.
Permission to let the business grow all the way up to the size of the value already inside it.
That's the awareness work this week: making sure the business you've built is actually yours, the full-size version, not the carefully comfortable one that keeps your nervous system calm while quietly leaving your best work, and a great deal of your worth, on the table.
Sometimes "the way I've always done it" really is the right way. And when it is, wonderful. Keep it, and keep it proudly!
And sometimes, hiding right inside the thing that's going "well," there's a mask you never knew you were wearing, sitting directly over the exact spot where your next level has been waiting the whole time.
The only way to tell the difference is to look.
My questions for you this week:
What’s one part of your business that’s going “well” enough that you’ve stopped questioning it?
Where can you look at your model, marketing, pricing, or story for a mask you’ve been comfortable wearing?
Reply and share with me! I read and reply to every one!
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You can’t see it alone; that’s the point.
My client didn’t need more effort or more hustle. They needed someone standing outside the groove, who could see the value they’d gotten too comfortable to notice, and reflect it back.
That’s the work I love most. Being the second set of eyes for creative, heart-centered entrepreneurs who are doing beautiful work inside a model, a price, or a story that quietly stopped matching how much they’ve grown.
In a MindSweep Mapping Session, we look together at the places that feel the most settled. Not to tear anything down, but to find the mask hiding inside the thing that’s going “well,” and to give your business permission to grow all the way up to the size of the value already inside it.
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[1] https://www.researchgate.net/publication/5152072_Status_Quo_Bias_in_Decision-Making
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